Manipulation

We feel it as our right or even duty.

We put a scale in our head and then act based on that. Scale like,

• senior in age (big brother),
• superior in office (boss),
• gender ( I am the husband),
• relationship (I am your parent),
• rich,
• power,
• knowledge,
• skill and
• even in name of religion.

I was discussing this with one of my friend. I was saying, we do manipulation all the time and we do not even feel that as we think it is our duty.

So he was surprised, How!

I replied, on what right a big brother can bound his younger one to do something though the younger one was unwilling to do?

On what right you decide what your wife can do and can not do?

On what right a father decides where his son/daughter will marry?

In office what contract bounds you to address another colleague as Sir?

We force others from our positions, we manipulate situations to make others bound to do something so cleverly that we ourselves sometime do not see that and feel like it is our duty to make him bound to this or that. And we forget, we have to answer for that.

And these daily practices slowly morph our judgments and we start forcing/manipulating even in bigger issues and never feel it as crime.

We can advise and advise with truth only but we can not force and that is the limit of human if we fear answering our deeds.